Limits

Limits

We have talked a little about limits but not fully about them. Limits are those boundaries that make us feel uncomfey, weired out, turned off and otherwise just plain grossed out. Let's be real for a moment and consider limits...We all have them, If anyone says they do not have limits, they are wrong! Many people out there who feel they do not have any limits, don't know about them until they try something and get totally grossed, weirded or otherwise turned off. With that said, limits can be categorized into two categories, soft and hard limits.

Soft Limits
    These limits include ones that if in the certain situations you are ok with certain people breaking. But remember when breaking a soft limit you must always ask the person in OOC (remember than can be IM or double brackets) if it is ok to do the certain act before it happens.

Hard Limits
    These limits are ones that no one can break under any circumstance at all! If someone does break a hard limit that would be your time to safeword out and go into OOC to tell them what they have done.

Safewords
  Safewords can be any word, just be sure not to choose a word you use a lot. Even if you don't think you have any limits, its best to have a safeword anyways just in case. There is no shame in safewording out of a situation, if after saying it you talk to the person you are RPing with and discess why you have safeworded out. You are not a bad RPer or submissive if you safeword out but be sure to only safeword if a hard limit has been broken.

How do we let other know of our limits?
    There are some notecards around that have a list of things, some use websites and some just verbally tell their playmate(s). The best way to convey the message of limits, in my opinion, is to use a website. This website was mainly designed for furries but works excellent for humans too.

Background
    We each have our own little stories n stuff but do you actually have it all written down? Remember when you all filled out our character sheet that had a ton of questions? Well now its time to take that out again and create a small backstory for your character. Here's your chance to think about what your character was like before we all knew him/her.

What does a good backstory have in it?
    major childhood events
    where you were raised at
    family
    owners
    lovers
    major habits

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Today we talked about limits and our background story. This little homework will be pretty basic but very essentual to make a strong character. Go ahead and get your thinking caps on and create a backstory for your character. Though there is a little catch.... it must be less than 1,022 characters (letters, number & symbols)! Idea is to put this little backstory up in your profile under a Pics tab. (If you need help with that just let me know) Now you all gonna ask, how do i know if its too long or short? Well easy for you cos i have found use character counter to find out how long it is.
    Character Counter: http://www.javascriptkit.com/script/script2/charcount.shtml

Also make up your limits list. Upon joining up, you will be asked to make a character. There are many, many kinks on there to say Favorite!, Yes, Maybe, No and NoSPecialPreferance. The NSP will not be viewed on your profile. If you have any questions on any one of the kinks it asks for, hover next to it and it will give a breif discription of what it is. Any other questions, just as me.
        limits website: http://rh.greydawn.net
        example of mine: http://rh.greydawn.net/browse.php?c=melody%20Swashbuckler%20Colman